Some people are so relaxed that they don’t have any difficulties living with anyone. They are so calm and submissive, making them supportive friends and loyal employees. If you’ve come across such a person, then he or she is most likely a phlegmatic person.
Define Phlegmatic temperament.
Sometimes referred to as the watcher, a phlegmatic person is not aggressive. In deed, they are extremely passive. They are content and balanced and easily tolerate others. People with phlegmatic personalities are excellent listeners and therefore make good mediators. They try hard to not offend anyone. They are also very adaptable and friendly. Although they’re a little shy, they’re very consistent.
Phlegmatics are so passive they just watch others do things. They’re fearful, hesitant and indecisive in matters of life. Therefore, they tend to compromise a lot. Additionally, phlegmatics often worry about everything. They typically come across as unenthusiastic, indifferent, lazy and sluggish.
Phlegmatic personality traits
Introverts by nature, phlegmatics enjoy spending time alone. However, they’re nicer, friendlier and more social than melancholics since they aren’t perfectionists and don’t judge people.
They enjoy spending time with pals and are extremely loyal to friends, sticking with them no matter what happens, even through abuse. They also put other people first and won’t leave them even if they wish to do that.
They love a steady, calm life, without surprises. They can cope well in familiar situations but panic when they find themselves in unfamiliar ones. They are not after thrills, and lead quiet, routine and predictable lives.
Phlegmatic people are really quiet and often keep to themselves as they fear being judged and don’t wish to burden others with unnecessary talk.
They rarely get angry. They’re notoriously tolerant and will only loose their cool after a period of sustained abuse. Even then, phlegmatics are more likely to cry and go into their own shells, rather than confront others.
However, phlegmatic personality types are great, attentive listeners. They’ll politely listen to what their friends have to say. They’ll always be attentive, and will give supportive advice instead of criticism. They never get bored by conversations with their friends.
As they don’t hurt or offend others, they usually don’t get involved in aggressive attacks or insults. They feel bad about belittling or hurting others, so they avoid doing this.
They hardly express any emotions. While a sanguine might easily jump for joy for anything, phlegmatics are only likely to smile. They usually hide their emotions.
Phlegmatics never try pretend that they’re better than others. Instead, they aim to please and are ready to yield to others.
A phlegmatic is terrified of conflicts. They neither start them (except when pushed to the wall) nor provoke them. As soon as a conflict arises, their instinct is to defuse it. When pushed into conflict, they get really angry and distressed and seek to escape rather than try to win.
When facing resistance, they try to get around it whenever possible. They love peace so much so that they wish everyone could get along and avoid conflict as much as possible.
If confronted, phlegmatics tend to admit fault in order to avoid hostilities. They’ll even give up their own happiness to make sure that other people are happy.
They are quite empathetic and really aware of other people’s feelings that they don’t wish to do anything that hurts them.
They find it really hard to turn down requests and will do things they don’t like to please others. Moreover, they’re very trustworthy and very likely to keep their promises.
Phlegmatics will let others make decisions for them, and will feel pressured and upset if they’re required to make decisions on their own. This is because they don’t see themselves as leaders.
They naturally like to follow others and thrive when they work under instructions.
Rather doing or saying the wrong thing, phlegmatics will do or say nothing at all.
Their language is typically characterized by uncertain phrases like “I think”, “perhaps”, “maybe”, or “something”.
When faced with obstacles, phlegmatic people will typically stop and fumble around, unsure of what to do next. In other words, they’re more likely to get around an issue than deal with it.
Role in society
Phlegmatics really love helping others and are into charity as well. They are ideal for careers such as teaching, nursing, child development, social services, psychology and counseling.
Strengths of phlegmatic people
Phlegmatics work slowly but persistently as their work doesn’t require a huge mental effort.
They aren’t easily flustered by failures, violations or suffering. They remain calm, composed, contemplative, deliberate, and have a sober, cold and pragmatic attitude.
They don’t have intense passions and don’t expect too much from life.
Phlegmatic people really thrive under pressure, work long hours, and give steady and reliable effort.
They’re also good at telling and enjoying jokes.
Weaknesses of phlegmatic people
Phlegmatics lack ambition. They are hardly attracted to lofty goals and ideals. Even in their piety and faith, they have no aspirations. They avoid self-sacrifice and penance.
They don’t show interest in happenings or events around them. This may include other people as well, which can result in egoism.
Phlegmatics are very resistant to change. Change is extremely difficult for them as they’re naturally apathetic. They may lack the energy required to make the most of their talents.
They’re also lazy and tend to neglect their duties. They prefer to have an easy life, drinking, eating and lazing around.
Additionally, phlegmatics are indecisive, stubborn and teasing.
How to deal with a phlegmatic individual
Recognize that they need peace in their surroundings.
Encourage them to take responsibilities and don’t be quick to take no for an answer.
Appreciate their calm disposition, assist them to take decisions when required as they usually avoid the path of resistance in life, missing out on wonderful opportunities for growth.
Help them set their own goals and reward them if they achieve them.
Don’t expect them to be openly enthusiastic as they try to not get overexcited about your idea. They believe it might not happen, anyway, so they don’t want to waste all that energy.
Know that phlegmatics like procrastination; if they don’t want to do something, they won’t come out and say it as that would bring conflict-something they abhor. If your friend or loved one is a phlegmatic, they’ll listen to your problems, stories and will try to paint you a positive outlook.
Famous people with a phlegmatic personality include Tim Duncan, Keanu Reeves and Sandy Koufax.
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